Unpacking
Tomorrow is the first day of Lent and I’m going to take the opportunity to motivate myself to do something I’ve been meaning to do for a while: clear out my “baggage.” Since my last serious relationship I have had lots of “mini-relationships” where I date a guy for a month or two and then something happens to end it, leaving me moderately broken-hearted. But because the relationship never fully developed, the “end” always seems somewhat unfinished, like without a big, blow-out, drag-down break-up there is still the possibility it could restart later (and sometimes it has). This has left me with a cell-phone full of guys I talk to every once in a while and a online history of Facebook pages, Twitter feeds, and Tumblr blogs I check obsessively when the conversation ends.
Not good.
So the rules for Lent this year are:
1. No online stalking. No checking pages, feeds or blogs. If something crosses my news feed, timeline or dashboard, fair game, but I can’t actively search out any information.
2. No speaking to any old guys without being spoken to first. If they say something I can politely respond, but only in the interest of being a nice and agreeable person. I’m tempted to say no contact altogether, but I don’t want to ruin a few real friendships. This rule does not apply to current or possible new guys I may meet before Easter.
I’m hoping this will clear my head and heart of a few of these hang-ups, and that by Easter I will have a much lighter load.
Anyone else giving up something for Lent?
