Honestly.
I know this guy. He is the only guy I know who has never lied to me. Never. Not once. Which, if you think about it, it’s pretty sad I only know one guy who has always been honest with me, but moving on. One guy has. He’s never told me he’d call and didn’t. He never said he’d see me soon and then disappeared. He’s never told me something he didn’t mean, never done anything behind my back, never intentionally, or really even unintentionally, deceived me. Never. Not once.
This guy is an asshole. Not always, but a lot. He has his moments of sweetness, but for every act of kindness there are five more acts of rudeness, selfishness and impatience. More than once I have deleted his phone number after a particularly frustrating conversation, and sworn I’d never speak to him again.
But I always do.
There was this night. The night he kicked me out of his apartment. We were sitting in his living room and it was getting late.
“Ok, time for you to go home,” he told me.
I was stunned. “Huh?”
“You didn’t think you were staying, did you?”
I stammered and he laughed. I asked him why I had to leave.
“Because I want you to,” is what he said.
I thought it was a joke. Until he shut the door to my cab on 6th Avenue and waved as I rode away.
This guy made me furious. But two weeks later, when he called and asked to see me again, I agreed. And we had fun. I didn’t get mad at him, I didn’t even mention how angry he’d made me.
Why? Because he didn’t lie to me. He didn’t kiss me goodbye, tell me he’d miss me, say he’d see me soon. He simply told me the truth, he wanted me to leave. Cruel? Yes. Fair and honest? Also yes. And as upsetting as it was, I just can’t fault someone for being truthful.
With every guy I meet who tells me exactly what I want to hear, only for me to find out a few days, weeks, sometimes months later it was an empty gesture, I realize the value of a guy who will simply tell the truth. This guy is far from perfect, but he’s honest. And I can’t get mad at him for that. Because honestly, I wish every guy I meet would be more like him.
